Your Therapist—and Guide on the Path to Healing 
Our task must be to free ourselves by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature and its beauty. –Albert Einstein
My name is Caroline Sabi, and I am a licensed professional counselor. I earned my bachelor’s degree in the field of psychology from UC Berkeley and my master’s degree in the field of counseling psychology from Lewis & Clark College. I provide therapy and coaching to residents of Oregon and coaching to people all over the United States.
Where Our Paths Cross
Remarkably, I knew since the age of 9 that working in the field of mental health was my calling; however, life had other plans for me. My destiny was to immigrate twice, and detour to law school in France before landing in the USA and getting my formal education in counseling psychology. All the meanderings of my life became opportunities to go deeper and deeper into the realm of the psyche and get first-hand experiences in most of the areas I am now specializing in; namely, grief and loss, depression, crisis of meaning, parenting, eating disorders, relationship difficulties, multicultural assimilation, chronic pain/illness and anxiety. I also am fluent in the languages French and Farsi. As a certified counselor, I have had the privilege of witnessing people undergo the slow, extremely subtle and remarkable journey of healing and self-transformation. This process of psychological growth is astoundingly complex, multilayered, circular and even mysteriously numinous in its unfolding.
Emotionally Focused Couple Counselor
Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples (EFT) is a research validated method of helping couples resolve relationship conflicts, improve emotional communication, and increase intimacy. As an EFT therapist, I help you understand how relationships work at an emotional level where reactive emotions and negative cycles can hijack your interactions. I will support both of you and foster an environment where deeper emotions, old hurts, and important needs can be safely expressed and understood by your partner. Together, we can create new, positive ways of engaging that will strengthen your emotional bond, build resilience when coping with conflicts, and increase liveliness and spontaneity.
EFT can help couples who are:
- Trapped in escalating arguments
- Frustrated by the way they communicate
- Becoming more resentful and angry
- Feeling emotionally disconnected
- Feeling distant after the birth of a child
- Dealing with mid-life changes
- Rebuilding their relationship after an affair
- Coping with illness or depression
A Holistic Approach to Counseling
My philosophy as a therapist is primarily focused on core transformation rather than merely symptom management, and needless to say, I strongly believe in the centrality of the therapeutic relationship as a significant healing agent.
Moving towards our wholeness necessitates the courage to first move into the wounded parts that we all have as members of the human species. I call the psychotherapy that I do “healing into wholeness” because I view our wounds as the stepping stones taking us back to our wholeness through a process of integration. Therefore, there is sacredness to our wounded parts.
Your Connection to Self-Realization
I see our life as a sacred journey. It is about change, growth, discovery, movement and transformation; continuously expanding our vision of what is possible, stretching our soul, learning to see clearly and deeply, listening to our intuition and taking courageous challenges every step of the way. We are on the path, exactly where we need to be right now, and from here, we can only go forward, shaping our life into a magnificent tale of triumph, healing, courage, beauty, wisdom, power, dignity and love. It is my belief that no one can do it alone; no one should expect to do it alone. It will be my privilege and honor to walk this sacred path with you. Growth work takes courage; if you have been reading my website until this point, something in you is calling you. Together, we will find the ways to answer this call.
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A poem to all the unavailable men I have met in my life:
“It was hard to recognize how unavailable you were
It was hard because that’s all I have known growing up
What feels familiar feels normal
But there is nothing normal about being unavailable you see
Can you see that patriarchy has robbed us all of the juicy and tender connection full presence can provide us?
I have been learning many lessons so far in my life
The hardest one of all is the one I am right in the middle of
How to show up fully, warts and all, and accept and love the other exactly as he/she is
See, I grew up with perfectionist parents, so many conditions needed to be fulfilled for me to feel worthy of love
I am ready to throw them all out
I feel it in my bones that I am worthy of love just the way I am
I have gone through so many emotions lately because of you unavailable men
I have felt disappointment, doubt, anger, and sadness
But today I woke up with a new emotion: compassion
I feel for you all
You have had your own shackles:
“Be strong,” .….boys don’t cry,” “ work hard to provide”….,
We keep hammering these values in our boys
But what about the quality of the heart?
What about making room for them to FEEL
If men are not available to themselves, they cannot be available to us
The answer to it all is the Divine Feminine
Can we rest in the arms of the Divine Mother?
That feminine energy that is pure love and acceptance
That part in us that knows about unconditional love
With every disappointment and failed relationship
I find myself finding refuge deeper and deeper in the arms of the Divine mother
As I start my drive to Olympia for a weekend of ecstatic dancing
I know that I will be relishing my connection to the Divine Feminine this weekend
Healing is a long meandering road
I feel grateful to have found the kind of path that speaks to me
May we all find our specific path to the Divine Mother
May we experience her love in all of our cells
May we hear her special and unique message whispered in our ear.” Caroline Sabi July 2018
Art: Tanya Torres
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“It is the quality of freshness, of newness, that is essential, or otherwise life becomes a routine, a habit; and love is not a habit, a boring thing. Most people have lost all sense of wonderment. They take everything for granted; this sense of security destroys freedom and the wonderment of uncertainty.”Krishnamurti
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“The trick with manifestation is not to talk about it, but just to do it. You can tell everyone your plan, you can ask the universe to support you, you can even hold a special fire ceremony to usher it into realization, but it won`t mean anything if you don`t ground it in reality. If you have a dream- do it into being. There is nothing to fear but wholeness itself.” Jeff Brown
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“Seek out what magnifies your spirit. Who are the people, ideas, and books that magnify your spirit? Find them, hold on to them, and visit them often. Use them not only as a remedy once spiritual malaise has already infected your vitality but as a vaccine administered while you are healthy to protect your radiance.” Maria Popova
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