Focus

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart. Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens.
–Carl Jung

Caroline Sabi - licensed professional counselor in Portland, OregonMy focus as a relational and existential-humanistic psychotherapist is to walk the path of healing into wholeness with my client. It is my honor and privilege to be a companion and a guide to whomever decides to take the chance to venture on this journey to self-transformation.

The pathways on this journey will be complex, multilayered, circular and even mysteriously numinous. There are several aspects to my healing philosophy that I would like to go over in this section.

The Therapeutic Relationship

The first and most important aspect is the quality of the therapeutic relationship. When functioning at its best, the therapeutic relationship will foster a corrective, secure and reliable attachment in which the client’s earlier childhood emotional injuries can be discovered, expressed and resolved within a safe and nurturing space.

This unique relationship encourages the emergence of traumatic, repressed and/or dissociated memories so that they might be consciously interpreted and integrated, thus reducing their deleterious neural and psychological impact. Over time, the therapeutic relationship gradually fosters the client’s development of a more mature and authentic sense of self who is able to relate to him/herself and others with greater intimacy, honesty and integrity.

The quality of my presence during a therapeutic session is one imbued with care, compassion and an unconditionally positive regard for my client. It is my belief that the client sitting across from me is already a beautifully whole person at his/her core, just a bit burdened and scarred by insults and afflictions that were imposed upon him/her by unfortunate external circumstances. My focus is to help my client remember and reintegrate discarded or forgotten parts of him/herself; parts my client walled off in an attempt to survive earlier assaults to his/her personhood.

Integrated Therapeutic Approaches

The revival of hope, meaning and aliveness, which is my ultimate goal in any therapeutic encounter, needs more than just the application of conceptual approaches to insight.

It has been my experience that intellectual knowledge and rational explanations are not enough by themselves to undo lifelong, entrenched patterns of thinking and feeling. Insight must be energized by emotions that wear flesh, bones, muscles and nerves in order to effect deep characterological changes that endure. I use breath work, guided visualizations and body access tools to tap into the wisdom of the body in helping my client on this journey of healing into wholeness. Our psychological, mental and emotional processes are simultaneously experienced within our somatic self as energy, sensation, tension, breath, posture, movement and gesture. Trauma, emotional pain, conflicts and characterological defense strategies are expressed in various somatic organizations such as chronic muscular contraction and physical armoring, shallow or irregular breathing, collapsed postures, rigid or agitated movements, and psychosomatic symptoms. Through mind-body connection exercises, my aim is to facilitate a more balanced flow of energy within my client’s embodied self. Our health and vitality is directly related to a healthy and balanced flow of energy throughout our whole system.

My overall focus as an integrated psychotherapist is to bring vitality, health and a sense of wholeness to my client. Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space lies our freedom and power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and freedom. It is my goal to create with my client an intimate choreography that supports the slow repair of psychological holes in his/her sense of self. It is my wish to support my client in creating, exploring and embodying that space between stimulus and response so that a greater sense of freedom and mastery is experienced.

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“Always allow yourself to cry, tears are the words in which the heart expresses itself. We need to spend more time listening to what our heart is telling us.” -S.Miller
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“The key to happiness lies somewhere between positive thoughts and denial. Between effort and exhaustion. Between endless taking and incessant giving. Between trusting everyone and trusting no one. Between believing we are the center of the universe and not knowing we are a part of it. May we all seek the middle ground and know balance when we reach it.” Sandra Kring

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A poem to all the unavailable men I have met in my life:
“It was hard to recognize how unavailable you were
It was hard because that’s all I have known growing up
What feels familiar feels normal
But there is nothing normal about being unavailable you see
Can you see that patriarchy has robbed us all of the juicy and tender connection full presence can provide us?
 
I have been learning many lessons so far in my life
The hardest one of all is the one I am right in the middle of
How to show up fully, warts and all, and accept and love the other exactly as he/she is
See, I grew up with perfectionist parents, so many conditions needed to be fulfilled for me to feel worthy of love
I am ready to throw them all out
I feel it in my bones that I am worthy of love just the way I am
 
I have gone through so many emotions lately because of you unavailable men
I have felt disappointment, doubt, anger, and sadness
But today I woke up with a new emotion: compassion
I feel for you all
You have had your own shackles:
“Be strong,” .….boys don’t cry,” “ work hard to provide”….,
We keep hammering these values in our boys
 But what about the quality of the heart?
What about making room for them to FEEL
If men are not available to themselves, they cannot be available to us
 
The answer to it all is the Divine Feminine
Can we rest in the arms of the Divine Mother?
That feminine energy that is pure love and acceptance 
That part in us that knows about unconditional love
With every disappointment and failed relationship 
I find myself finding refuge deeper and deeper in the arms of the Divine mother
 
 
As I start my drive to Olympia for a weekend of ecstatic dancing
I know that I will be relishing my connection to the Divine Feminine this weekend
Healing is a long meandering road
I feel grateful to have found the kind of path that speaks to me
May we all find our specific path to the Divine Mother
May we experience her love in all of our cells
May we hear her special and unique message whispered in our ear.” Caroline Sabi July 2018
Art: Tanya Torres

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